He had been here for over a week and my sister, well we will call her Cow, (she is the exact opposite of fat but she used to love cows) was having people celebrate her birthday with dinner and going to a bar. She lives in the city. I invited him to go. We went early sat around her apartment and he chatted with her live-in boyfriend. For dinner we went to Tapas style restaurant, tapas is so fun and good. I never had it before. Its Spanish food and you get these small plates of the food you ordered and you pass it around and everyone takes a little. It was great. Bug was talking and getting along with everyone it was nice. It was kinda funny though how the seating went ...it was Cow, her friend, my other sister (Shortie), Brian's cousin, me, Bug, and Brian..so the girls minus me were all next to each other talking and then I was stuck talking with the boys..I was the odd girl out but it was fun...We all went out to the bar, Bug and I could not stay late, I had a work thing in the morning that I had to speak at...Bug went out and smoked with the boys whenever they did...I was happy that everyone was getting along...it was a good sign...
Here's the thing, I have not brought most of my boyfriends out with my family members...or even friends..just a couple..and none recently...so I was really nervous...
anyways..we had to leave early like I said..and I had almost no money left..so we were going to walk halfway back to my car and then take a cab ( my car was back by my sister's apartment..and it was about 4 miles away) We started walking and Bug stopped to roll a cigarette ( yes a cigarette.) and I stopped him and said ya know what that might look like and we don't know if it's legal to carry rolling papers around ( because somewhere I had heard that it wasnt...) and the fight started..I was jumping his ass about his habit. And honestly, yea I perfer if he didn't smoke but I do not care ...he can do what he wants..but yea I do sometimes give him crap for it but I am mainly kidding. Anyways..so he would not let it go..I was trying to not talk and just cool down ..and he would not let me..so of course a little comment turned into a huge blow out..
At one point he walked away from me, I flipped...we were in the middle of a neighborhood in the city that neither one of us knew very well...and he left me!!! He just kept trying to discuss the situation and I just wanted to wait until we got into the car and not yell on the street. Plus the comment I made should have never turned into that big of a fight. I finally got him to see it my way once I knew why he kept trying to continue the fight. He wanted to finish it and come to a solution so we could kiss and make up but I told him that we can't do that if we are both yelling and both not seeing eye to eye because we are so worked up (over nothing in my opinion still..and I think he would disagree with me still haha) so we talked about a better way to communicate while "fighting" so it did not get so out of hand..
He drove home for me so I could sleep for 40 ish minutes before we got home..we slept..I went to my meeting..got home..and all was good again..
I have to admit the fight had my freaked out and I think thats why I let myself get out of control while we were fighting..I kept thinking what if this is wrong, maybe we won't work out, etc...I mean I know we moved too fast and that's going to be why we get stressed out and make issues bigger then they are...because we don't understand our differences yet and know each other as well as we think we do...but I doubted it for a second because he would not let it go or listen to me..but then I remembered what I just typed about moving too fast plus we both had some alcohol in us....I was done with my freaking out when I was at my meeting on a Saturday (the day after my sister's thing) and I could not wait for it to end so I could spend my Saturday night with him for once ( I usually work at a 3rd job on Saturday night but I was off ).
we have had one other fight (some disagreements of course) since then...it was bad but we worked through it...and yes I know we haven't even been in the same state long BUT I look at it this way ( and I think he does too) we moved in before we even dated or had an actual relationship before it was all over the phone...we are moving fast so some stuff is going to happen more then it should and not be normal...but I know I don't want this to end... :p
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