Thursday, April 9, 2009

Well well...

No readers still..hmm I thought by now someone would be vaguely interested..shrug..but I am still going to keep this blog up. It's a nice memory type of thing to have for me and bug. I forgot what I was going to type haha. Well Later. But I have to blog something today because I will be with no computer for 4 days!!!! YIKES!!! IDK if I can do that haha.
Peace out.

Monday, April 6, 2009

Any suggestions..

Well you do not know where I live but in general what can one do in their same town or state or any state in the midwest while on vacation? I am on vacation in I think two weeks and I have a 4 day weekend this weekend.

I figure baseball games, going to the city, going to visit his folks and friends..but IDK what else. Anything creative?? We live in the midwest. Oh Mall of America someone at work suggested...

Helloooo just mindless ramblings...

Yo! I hate Mondays! Anyways Bug is working by getting temp day jobs through Labor Ready until something else happens. He has an interview at Wendy's tomorrow so thats good. He is working today via Labor Ready.

I had game night last night at my place. It was fun! We played sequence, Apples to Apples, and Phase 10. It was girls night but, we let Bug play anyways lol. I got these super good mini "gourmet" pizzas and then the normal munchies and some girly drinks.

He's such a good boyfriend. I had a special event at my job and I asked him to volunteer. He was at my job from 6 am - 1230 pm just to help me.

I finally finished with decorating my bathroom. I made a really cute vase and flower thingey. I got bright pink fake flowers on clearance at Wal-mart and put them in a skinny vase that had those clearish blue and green stones in it. It looks neat and the pink makes the bathroom seem brighter. Now if only I can buy my rug for the bathroom but my cat loves to go to the bathroom on bathroom rugs :( :/ ...

Thursday, April 2, 2009

Relationship "stress"

Not really stressed. However we get into stupid moments of bickering over usually nothing at all. Well at work I thought about it, and I think part of it is because we do not know how the other person is with daily tasks, and we do not know all the little things about each yet. I feel like I completely know him, etc. Anyways, I told him this. And I think he feels insulted because he kept bringing it up in snide sneaky comments when talking about other stuff. He took it as I don't think I know him well enough yet. I do think I know him but I think moving too fast does affect a relationship; however, we get over the bickering fast and forget it.

And I feel bad because he left all his friends and family to be out by me..sigh..

Just some ramblings..

So yesterday on April's Fools Day...Bug told me that he Silkroad was working on my laptop..so I go to check it out..and he lied to me...grrrr...

We went to Bahama Breeze on Tuesday..omg so good. And it was great not to have to cook for once. The food is so good..i got Marghrita chicken..mmhmm :D

He met my mom this morning. It went well, he made homemade pancakes and eggs. SO good. He cleaned the apartment last night for me for her coming over. He's so helpful.

Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Eek I am excited..

Yea yea, I just said Eek! Okay so I forgot to mention this but my PC broke (for good, its so old so yea) sometime in the beginning of February..and my laptop has not truly worked in like 6 months...So I got the laptop fixed (this means I have not played silkroad since then!) and Silkroad (SRO) still did not work on it...So Bug has been fixing out the bugs (haha) in my laptop..and it looks like it might work now!! I am so excited..I have not been able to play in wayyyy to long!!! My character has been stuck on lvl 66 forever and I am farming and I am blader...(which means she takes forever to level) and now they raised the lvl cap so I am so farrrrr behinnnddddd... shitty. That's all. I wanted to blog and that popped into my head.. :p

OH and Bug might have found a job (again) already!! He finds out soon, but he was the only person this job interviewed so I am hoping they liked him enough to just hire him!

Monday, March 30, 2009

Dinner at my dad's...

It went well..I do not have anything exciting to type about it. The dinner was so good homemade stuffed shells that had spinach with cheese and then covered with homemade red sauce and he made homemade meatballs. It was so so good. It makes tonight's dinner look even more cheap and blah. I think tonight we (bug and I) are having mac and cheese or tuna helper. But we might go to Bahama Breeze..I have a gift card there. My sister Shortie was so eager for her boyfriend Mike to meet Bug. It was kinda cool because she must really think Bug is a good guy. I know its weird that a 28 yr old is so concerned and worried about what her family thinks of a boyfriend but like I said I haven't introduced many to them and I haven't been serious with a lot of them..and there's been enough!

Well I cannot think of any stories to fill today's blog..sorry. Oh it was kind of cute..last night when saying good night and i love yous, bug and I said I love you at the exact same time.. :) hehe..lame :p

Sunday, March 29, 2009

OMG OMG OMG

My dad is finally having my bday dinner, and Bug is going to met my dad and step mom...OMG..I am scared..there's never been an official meeting at dinner before with my bfs. They have meet a couple but they were all casual!!!!

Look the posts about me and Bug are in the present....he's almost been here a month..and I cannot believe we have had two major fights lol. LAME. He's out getting milk for pancakes :D He makes the best homemade pancakes around...

I am disappointed though, we were supposed to go and take a walk at this nature center and farm place..it had 3 miles have trails and I took him there last week and it reminded him of home..bc he comes from a rural/nature-y town.....and I wanted to go there again to walk around..it was peaceful and fun..oh well when spring decides to cooporate we will go :D There was so many people out there last weekend b.c it was so nice last weekend...Now instead we get to clean...and I hate cleaning..the only household chore I like is cooking.

well laters.....and if you are ever interested in silkroad there's usually an ad on the page...

3.14.09 meeting my sisters and our first fight..

He had been here for over a week and my sister, well we will call her Cow, (she is the exact opposite of fat but she used to love cows) was having people celebrate her birthday with dinner and going to a bar. She lives in the city. I invited him to go. We went early sat around her apartment and he chatted with her live-in boyfriend. For dinner we went to Tapas style restaurant, tapas is so fun and good. I never had it before. Its Spanish food and you get these small plates of the food you ordered and you pass it around and everyone takes a little. It was great. Bug was talking and getting along with everyone it was nice. It was kinda funny though how the seating went ...it was Cow, her friend, my other sister (Shortie), Brian's cousin, me, Bug, and Brian..so the girls minus me were all next to each other talking and then I was stuck talking with the boys..I was the odd girl out but it was fun...We all went out to the bar, Bug and I could not stay late, I had a work thing in the morning that I had to speak at...Bug went out and smoked with the boys whenever they did...I was happy that everyone was getting along...it was a good sign...

Here's the thing, I have not brought most of my boyfriends out with my family members...or even friends..just a couple..and none recently...so I was really nervous...

anyways..we had to leave early like I said..and I had almost no money left..so we were going to walk halfway back to my car and then take a cab ( my car was back by my sister's apartment..and it was about 4 miles away) We started walking and Bug stopped to roll a cigarette ( yes a cigarette.) and I stopped him and said ya know what that might look like and we don't know if it's legal to carry rolling papers around ( because somewhere I had heard that it wasnt...) and the fight started..I was jumping his ass about his habit. And honestly, yea I perfer if he didn't smoke but I do not care ...he can do what he wants..but yea I do sometimes give him crap for it but I am mainly kidding. Anyways..so he would not let it go..I was trying to not talk and just cool down ..and he would not let me..so of course a little comment turned into a huge blow out..

At one point he walked away from me, I flipped...we were in the middle of a neighborhood in the city that neither one of us knew very well...and he left me!!! He just kept trying to discuss the situation and I just wanted to wait until we got into the car and not yell on the street. Plus the comment I made should have never turned into that big of a fight. I finally got him to see it my way once I knew why he kept trying to continue the fight. He wanted to finish it and come to a solution so we could kiss and make up but I told him that we can't do that if we are both yelling and both not seeing eye to eye because we are so worked up (over nothing in my opinion still..and I think he would disagree with me still haha) so we talked about a better way to communicate while "fighting" so it did not get so out of hand..

He drove home for me so I could sleep for 40 ish minutes before we got home..we slept..I went to my meeting..got home..and all was good again..

I have to admit the fight had my freaked out and I think thats why I let myself get out of control while we were fighting..I kept thinking what if this is wrong, maybe we won't work out, etc...I mean I know we moved too fast and that's going to be why we get stressed out and make issues bigger then they are...because we don't understand our differences yet and know each other as well as we think we do...but I doubted it for a second because he would not let it go or listen to me..but then I remembered what I just typed about moving too fast plus we both had some alcohol in us....I was done with my freaking out when I was at my meeting on a Saturday (the day after my sister's thing) and I could not wait for it to end so I could spend my Saturday night with him for once ( I usually work at a 3rd job on Saturday night but I was off ).

we have had one other fight (some disagreements of course) since then...it was bad but we worked through it...and yes I know we haven't even been in the same state long BUT I look at it this way ( and I think he does too) we moved in before we even dated or had an actual relationship before it was all over the phone...we are moving fast so some stuff is going to happen more then it should and not be normal...but I know I don't want this to end... :p

snow @ the end of March

it truly looks like its the middle of winter outside instead of the beginning of Spring! Its kinda funny..but I think I am the only who thinks this because around here everyone just bitches about the weather especially the cold...or if its too hott. I mean I complain to but mainly b.c I am cold not b.c it being snowy or ice-y or temperature-wise...(yes I know it's because of the temperature I am cold but I know our weather gets cold...so Idk...I lost my point) anyways..I just had to comment on the weird ass weather...I might take a picture and post it. :D Plus idk why people are bitching because its not cold out and the snow actually looks really white and pretty...

Friday, March 27, 2009

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So the last of the background info..I hope..

Okay so we meet as you all know. And I got back home. He worked and we talked to the phone as much as ever. After meeting me, he made his final decision to make some money and then come up and live with or by me and get a job up here and go to college. It was all so fast but yet it felt right..and I was terrified and he was weirdly calm about it. I mean HELLO, we only had met once! His parents and him did not see eye to eye..there was a couple of fight...and then a "blow out." He called me and made his decision to move up by me right that second! I freaked but I supported him. He actually does not know I freaked..so when he reads this he will finally know. So less then a month after he met, he hopped a bus (his car is not ready to be driven to my place) and with barely any money saved like he was supposed to do...he decided to move in with me. OMG! All I could do was pretend he was just coming for a visit otherwise I would have freaked on him and made him feel worse after wanting to leave his parents house. It sounds dramatic and like he was running away as if he was in high school. But imagine being 29 and having to live with your parents under their rules and way of life because you had to move in there b.c you got laid off. BLAH. He moved in on (hmm what date was it..) I believe 3/5/09. It was a weird adjustment but like I said in the beginning I pretended it was just a fun visit. 3/9 was his 30th birthday and I was not allowed to do anything for it. But I made dinner, bought a cake and card, and rented a movie. It was a nice night in. He looked for a job, any job. And got a job at a sub place. It lasted less then a week...because supposedly they had found somone else better for the job even though there was no else training and they called him in for extra shifts before he was even done training so he must have been doing somethin good..i think the owners had a family member or friend that needed a job..but there's nothing to be done.

Thursday, March 26, 2009

About my blog

This blog will be mostly about how Bug and I met ( I am koli..he may write some posts as well). But I am sure I will end up posting other stuff because..I am kind of random. I hope this turns out to be interesting to someone because I think it is so weird how Bug and I met and started off and I hope we last. Once I am done with the story part, then it will more day to day what is happening now stuff and I am sure more random stuff. Once I get more comfortable, I am sure there will be pictures and such...probably first of my pets..then of me and Bug. Well whoever is reading this is probably who cares why are you posting this post..because I just want people to know what I am thinking with this blog b.c maybe then they will stick around. AND I also hope people have similiar stories about meeting online through games, blogs, etc...and will share those...ok the end because I am starting to ramble. :D

So I need to finish the background info..

As I said I was growing impatient. It was now Feb. (2009) and he had just gotten a job and our first meeting kept getting pushed back. I had money saved and a 3 -day weekend coming up. If you knew me irl, you would know I don't take huge risks and I play it safe a lot. But I felt like if we did not meet soon it would not happen. So I called him and told him I was driving down to him and we were meeting on my 3 -day weekend. Everyone excepted me to be nervous and scared even I did. Weirdly, I was fine. Partially because I did not think it was really happening..denial is a great thing. We meet on Feb. 15th, 2009 eating breakfast at a Huddle House ( those places are good! we do not have any by where I live). Not gonna lie, he was not what I expected but I did not have a clear picture of him at all. We must have looked like an odd couple, I was dressed up because I had driven straight from a wedding and he was in jeans and a tshirt (and coat). We both had gotten no sleep. He had talked to me almost the whole drive there ( 6 hours) to keep me awake. Back to meeting him..it was so awkward..we sat there not talking...I couldnt even look at him because I was so nervous and all I wanted ( and I found out later he wanted the same thing) was to hug him when we first met, as corny as that might sound. The three days went by way to fast and we got along great. We stayed in the type of motel that all the doors lead to the outside and are often in "scary" movies like Idenity and Joyride. It was fun! Haha. We decided that he would come out by me next in a month to visit to see if we could work on a very long distance dating thing until he saved up some money to move to me. (of course as long as it worked out.)


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Wednesday, March 25, 2009

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I have always wanted to start a blog, but I never knew what to write about or thought I was that interesting. This story is probably not interesting but its my life and I like writing. This blog is going to be the story of how me and Bug met and how it all turns out. We are still in the beginning of this story, but it started a while back. There's this game called Silkroad Online. I have been playing it for about 2 years now.

On silkroad, you chat and play with others all over the globe. About a year and half ago, I was grinding (fighting creatures) and ran into another character that was not a bot and we started talking just because it was rare to find a person in that area that was actually on and not a computer controlled bot. We became friends and often played and chatted while both on the game.

That was about to end, because Bug lost his job and had to move back to his parents house with no internet. I was more upset by that then I would have thought. Why would I be upset when I have never even met this person and we just play a game that I play when I am bored or need a distraction. So, I took a chance and asked if we could start talking on the phone. We obviously did otherwise there would be no story. That was December 4th, 2008. We talked for months, and we grew very attached to eachother. There was discussion on meeting, and dating long distance. But Bug needed to get a job first. I was growing impatient....